About this time last year, I was lamenting to a friend about whatever sleep issue Miles was having at the time and sheepishly admitting that we had let Miles back in to sleep with us or some such parental no-no.
“Oh well” she said “Whatever you are doing, you are doing it right”.
You could have picked my jaw up off the floor. It was only when I heard this, this absolutely validating support of my parenting that I realised how hard parents have it these days. We always feel that no matter what we are doing, we are doing it wrong. The Internet has become a bit of tyrant. As poor, desparate people search for answers, they are offered advice, criticism and suggestions, but very, very rarely are those wise words offered “You are doing it right”.
But let’s take a step back for a minute and look at the principles behind our parenting decisions. They are not: “I’m doing this because I dislike my child”. Nor, “I’m doing this because I love not sleeping.” Instead, let’s assume that the majority of us operate under the following principles:
1. You want the best for your child because they are your child.
2. You know your child better than anyone else because they are your child.
3. You want to maximize your own sleep.
I reckon most of us operate under those principles and do you know what? If that’s true, then like my wise friend said, trust yourself. Whatever you are doing, you are doing it right.