I know, I know, I’m a resilience expert. I’m meant to be immune to the blues. But, you know what? I reckon it’s pretty normal to be struck by these days. They may be related to tiredness, general malaise, worry about something, rain or just, a-hem, come out of the blue. Instead of analyzing, working it all out or beating yourself up (no ‘shoulds’ okay?) just brace yourself and accept that it’s going to be a different day. Let it be a day of small beauty, mini goals, tiny conquests, little victories.
Here’s what I do.
Firstly, forget the future. Tomorrow can take care of itself. You’re just mosying through today. Enough.
Now, picture your being as a great stretch of ocean water. Some days it is full of movement, joyous waves, excitement, thrills and general highs. Woo hoo! Leverage these for all they are worth! They will be with you again.
Some days, there’s just a large, flat, gray expanse, yawning into the distance.
On these days, it is up to you to make waves. (Sorry, seems my cheesy metaphor self is speaking today!). You don’t need big waves, just little restful undulations that will roll you through the day.
To make these small undulations, I’m sorry but you need to do something. I know that staying in bed seems like the most convenient thing. Maybe indulge it a little, but then, get up.
Don’t look in the mirror. Move directly to the kitchen and make a cup of tea. Don’t think as it brews. Don’t look at what needs to be done. Just zone out and look at the steam. Breathe in. Breathe out. Good.
The tea, once drunk, will form a tiny, tiny ripple of okayness that will register in your body of wellbeing. Quickly use this ripple to propel yourself into the shower. Wash your hair.
Great! The hair washing will cause another slight swell which you can use to perform the next small act. Do it. Pat yourself on the back. Move on.
See how this works? The trick is to leverage each swell. Wallow in it, savour it, even the tinsiest bump, and then use it to propel yourself forward to the next action. I’m mostly a stay-at-home-mum and as your day will no doubt involve different things to do than mine, you will need to diversify. But can I make some suggestions?
-Do that small thing that’s been really annoying you. This is something that’s been sitting there or something you see everyday . Mine, for example, was the smeary dining room window, covered in hand prints. I did not commit to cleaning the whole window. I just attacked the stickiest bit. Ahhh, such satisfaction.
Eat. You must eat. And you must eat protein or porridge or something that gives you a small lift, like a piece of fruit. All right, have a biscuit, too.
Ignore the news and bad news stories. If you must go on-line, watch something that uplifts you. Funny videos of cats. People being nice to each other. Here’s one I found earlier. It comes with a mascara warning.
Find something beautiful. Put it where you can see it. Stare.
Contact a friend. Send a smiley. Don’t wait for a response.
Do something for someone else. Give someone that needs it a dollar. Start a collection. Sign a petition. Pick up some rubbish. Send a loving thought. Get someone a coffee.
Do something that you will thank yourself for later. Maybe start dinner or hang the washing out or make the phone call you’ve been avoiding.
Start something you can finish.
Let the day gently pass by.
Tomorrow will come. Wake and test the waters. If you are still blue for a few days, maybe it’s time to seek help. You will get there. We all do if we just keep going.
Any tips from you on small things to do to beat the day blues?